What does that word mean to you? When you think about being welcomed somewhere, what does it look like? What does it sound like? What does it feel like?
I grew up Italian, and even if my grandma married in, she was Italian through and through. I’ll never forget showing up at Grandma’s house and hearing, “Come in, how are you? How was the ride? Are you hungry?” while being wrapped up in hugs and ushered into her home. To this day if I smell something that reminds me of her home like a roast cooking on the stove, I feel welcome – I literally feel it.
Welcome was more than just opening the door and allowing me to come inside.
It was enveloping me in love. It was making sure my needs were met. It was serving me with grace and engaging me with intention.
I felt wanted. I felt cared for. I felt like I belonged.
I can think of no better way to describe this feeling than through this video. I’d love it if you’d click this link and watch it, but if you don’t here’s a snapshot: Two Congo boys who have been adopted by an American couple come off the plane and literally run into their new parents arms. The tears, the absolute JOY, the intensity of the welcome… it brings tears to my eyes each time.
Watching it between those tears, I could not help but think of the story of the prodigal son and the welcome he received from his father when he returned home. The tears, the absolute JOY, the intensity of the welcome.
And I could not help but think of this Scripture
“He took a little child whom he placed among them. Taking the child in his arms, he said to them,“Whoever welcomes one of these little children in my name welcomes me; and whoever welcomes me does not welcome me but the one who sent me.”
“Welcomes one of these little children.”
And so, I think as the church we should ask, do we welcome the little children?
Are they enveloped in love? Are we serving them with grace and engaging with intention?
Are they welcome everywhere or only in certain spaces? Are they welcomed by the congregation, known by name, and identified as part of the community?
Do they know that they are wanted, cared for…that they belong?
These are good questions for us to ask, even if the our answer is yes, because Jesus says, if we welcome them, we welcome Him and if we welcome Him, we welcome the one who sent Him.
And no, of course there won’t be a flood of tears each time they walk through the church doors and our finest robes and food for feasting brought out each time they enter, but there should definitely be a sense of “I’m wanted here” and “I’m known here” and “I belong here” each time they come to worship, to fellowship, to learn, to be a part of the church.
Regardless of how each church decides to approach ministry to children and families, welcome should be an overall characteristic of the culture and the heart of our approach to children’s ministry, because by welcoming them, we welcome Christ and not only Christ, but the One who sent him… we welcome the fullness of God into our midst.
Looking for some ideas on how to welcome children to corporate worship? Check out this article on Practical Ways to Welcome Children to Church.
Some children don’t have a family to come to church with. Here are some thoughts on welcoming those who come alone.
Another way to help create a sense of welcome is to find spaces where we can incorporate the whole family in worship together; check out some ideas for that here.
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- Kids in Worship
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- Discipleship in Intergenerational community
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About this Blog
Refocus Ministry was started by Christina Embree, wife to Pastor Luke, mom to three wonderful kids, and family minister at Nicholasville UMC. She is passionate about seeing churches partnering with families to encourage faith formation at home and equipping parents to disciple their kids in the faith. She recently graduated with a Masters of Arts in Ministry focusing on Family, Youth and Children’s Ministry at Wesley Seminary, she also blogs at www.refocusministry.org and is a contributing blogger at D6 Family and Seedbed