“Intergenerational”
This word was not a familiar one just a decade ago. When I started talking about intergenerational ministry, the difference between family ministry and intergenerational ministry, the nuances between multigenerational and intergenerational, and terms like “age segregation” and “generational discipleship” in 2014, I got my fair share of odd looks and a wondering stares. To be sure, there were always a group of people talking about all things intergen, but for the most part, family ministry and children’s/youth ministry and even NextGen ministry were the terms that most people were familiar with.
Over the last decade, due in large part to continuing research that shows the immense benefits of a generationally-connected community, the term “intergenerational” has been used more and more. In 2020 in particular, ReFocus experienced a huge upswing in churches looking for resources and strategies for including all-ages in worship and learning experiences and for connecting generations in meaningful relationships.
But, despite our recent embrace of this approach and the growing conversation around the importance of generational discipleship in our churches, the truth is… this is not a new conversation. In fact, this tendency to remove children and youth from our larger gathering, whether intentionally or unintentionally, has been an ongoing conversation, truly since the beginning of age-specific Sunday School practices.
I recently had the opportunity to read a series of lectures from Yale Divinity School in 1888 given by Henry Clay Trumbull on the topic of “The Sunday-school: Its Origin, Mission, Methods, and Auxiliaries.” To be clear, Trumbull is a Capital-F Fan of Sunday School as he has experienced it. Keep in mind that during Trumbull’s time, Sunday School was held at a different time than the larger church gathering, so it was very much a “both/and” experience for him.
But Trumbull had some pretty serious words in reference to the congregational gathering, especially the preacher and the sermon that was delivered during that time. I wish I could just share the entire lecture with you here, but to give an example of his thoughts, here are a few lines from his lecture (emphasis added):
Trumbull recognizes a few things:
- Children are children, period! Yes, we should include them in our times of communal worship and learning but we shouldn’t just expect them to act like adults. Instead, we should embrace their childlikeness as the gift it is, as Christ said, learn from them and with them.
- Adults can gain from the presence of children. As much as we might like to pretend that all adults are engaged and attentive during the sermon, the truth is that all of us experience wandering minds and inattention. As Trumbull points out, gaining and maintaining the attention of children actually re-engages all in attendance and ensures that what is being shared can be understood easily by all.
- When we welcome a child, we welcome Christ. Jesus tells us this in no uncertain terms and Trumbull understands that this means a child, as he put it, “has a stronger claim than an adult on the preaching service of a minister of Christ.” Having children welcomed in our midst assures the welcomed presence of our Savior as well (Mark 9:37).
Trumbull demonstrates that if a Sunday morning communal worship experience is inaccessible to children, then Sunday School becomes the only viable alternative for them learning about Christ. But he states, unequivocally, that ”obviously, a better way still, is for children to have the incalculable advantage of pulpit ministrations suited to their capacities and needs in addition to all that could be secured to them by the best Sunday-school teaching ever.”
While Trumbull and I don’t see eye-to-eye on everything in his lectures (to be fair, I have the benefit of hindsight and a LOT of research), he is touching on something very important:
If we are to have space in our communal gatherings to welcome children, we must be willing to welcome them as children, to lay down our claims to a worship service targeted and directed towards our adult desires, and willing to selflessly and graciously welcome the children as we welcome Christ.
Trumbull concludes his lecture with a story from a Massachusetts pastor and an interaction he had with his young daughter. I hope it makes you smile as it does me, and I hope our conversation of connecting children and adults in times of worship and learning.
ReFocus Roundtable: Connecting Generations in Discussion Together
July 18, 2024 from 1 pm to 2pm, EST (12 pm CST)
The benefits of intergenerational relationships on both young and old have been enumerated by researchers and ministers alike but in many circles, there is resistance especially from adults. Many adults express that they feel uncomfortable engaging with younger generations. Offering the reticent a few tools for positive interactions can lead to opportunities that lead to meaningful relationships and lifelong discipleship.
We invite you to join us for this interactive conversation as our shared voices will help us all to connect generations in meaningful relationships for lifelong discipleship.
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About the Founder of ReFocus Ministry
Christina Embree is the founder and director of ReFocus Ministry. She holds a masters in ministry focused on Children, Youth, and Family Ministry and a doctorate in spiritual formation with a focus on age segregation and intergenerational ministry.
In addition to coaching churches of multiple denominations and traditions all around the globe, Christina serves as the Minister of Generational Discipleship for the Great Lakes Conference of the Brethren in Christ and as Next Gen pastor at Open Door Church in Lexington, Kentucky.
She is widely recognized as a speaker and author in the areas of generational discipleship, intergenerational ministry, and family ministry. As the mother of three children, she is familiar with the challenges of faith at home and pastoral ministry. She along with her husband Luke share a love for the church, their community, and the global work of peace and restoration through Jesus.
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Christina speaks on a wide range of topics related to children, youth, and family ministry with a unique focus on connecting generations for discipleship within your church. Her personalized approach allows you to pinpoint the needs of your community and gain the insight that you are looking for. Whether this is a volunteer team training and pastoral staff meeting or a ministerial conference, her experience and knowledge will help you determine the next step forward in creating lifelong disciples.
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Hetty Stok
If only we could get this wisdom in elixir form on a teaspoon, and feed it to some pastors.